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Some people have no idea.

December 17th, 2009 Comments off

Yes, they gave me posting privileges here, there goes the neighbourhood 🙂

I guess I should follow my kitti and do the whole introduction thing. Be prepared, I’m not a talking blogging entity so tend to both waffle and jump around subjects

Yeah, me, pushing 40, English, one time transatlantic commuter, all round bad guy.

Pushing 40? Yes that makes me pretty much old enough to be her father, and I don’t care. If anything I think that actually enhances the distance I want between us. Yes, distance is the aim rather than closeness.

Some of the basics have already been covered in her introduction and a couple of my comments on it. I will save you all the boredom of my life history for now, suffice to say its quite un-average, and certainly not for the faint hearted. Yes its made me jaded and cynical, but also quite thankful too for some things.

I’m poly, as well as kitti there are two other girls in my life, but they are going to be mainly left out of this, there are many blogs about service types, and more than a few about the daddy/girl relationship such as I have with my primary. I’m going to concentrate here on the kitti relationship as its one that’s more unusual, more likely to attract discussion. I will likely as often as not post other random rants too, until my gracious hosts come to their senses and kick me out 🙂 I’m also partly of the mind that not much gets said from this side of the fence, lots of slavey blogs that try to explain what the one in charge might be thinking or doing, so here is a chance for you to get some straight from the horses mouth.

Now the relationship, that’s what you all want to hear about. Its very atypical, even for bdsm practitioners, it will be, and already is very one sided, affection, power, responsibility, all rest almost entirely in one of us but not the other. None of this first amongst equals or sharing stuff.

So how did this all start?  Read more…

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It’s beginning to look a lot like Christmas.

December 17th, 2009 3 comments

90_03_36-christmas-decorations_web1So, let’s see.  What are we up to?

Well, it’s that time of year again.  There’s snow on the ground and everyone’s rushing around to find that “perfect gift” for their loved ones.  It’s frickin’ freezing outside and, even with plastic on the windows, our heater is having trouble keeping up.  I am not looking forward to seeing December’s electric and heating bill.  I can’t wait to get out of New York.

That’s not happening any time soon, though.

We borrowed one of A’s fake Christmas trees (Thanks, A!) to avoid the hassle – and extra expenditure – of buying a real one and getting it home and upstairs.  I put it up last night, but I haven’t fluffed or decorated it yet.  It sort of falls over, so I’ve got it leaning against the wall.  I’m not sure how we’re going to stand it upright when we decorate it.  But we’ll figure it out.  I’m hoping, when I fluff it, the weight will even it out enough that it’ll stand on its own.  We’ll see how that goes.

M and I have picked out our Christmas presents.  Because His is so much more expensive than mine, He decided to get me two.  Isn’t He awesome? He’s huge on fairness around the holidays, regardless of the fact that I’m a slave.  Bless Him.  That man is intent on making me happy, whether I like it or not.

I do like it, though.

I’m getting Him an iPod Touch.  He’s wanted one since they were announced.  We’ve been waiting on it because we rarely had enough extra spending money to get it for Him.  But we always break ourselves for Christmas.  Wouldn’t want to break tradition.  And thanks to His raise, Christmas isn’t going to break us this year.  It’s just gonna make things a little tight.

I can’t even begin to say how grateful I am for that.  In Schenectady alone, there are hundreds of families who aren’t going to have anything to give their children this year.  Toys for Tots didn’t have enough to go around, from what I understand.  A friend of mine got the last voucher they had, and there were still at least fifty people behind her in line.

And that’s understandable.  Everyone’s broke these days.

I think, next year, if I remember (Remind me, please!), I’ll do something similar to what AmorousRocker did over at her place.  I thought about picking it up this year, but I’ve got so much on my plate right now I was afraid I’d not be able to get it done.

I remember when my mom used to make us pick one present from under the tree to donate to Toys for Tots.  She always made sure it wasn’t the one we’d been eying all year, or the clothes she’d bought to get us through the winter.  But she also made sure it wasn’t something cheap and lame.   Read more…

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