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I gots my own drama! I iz drama llama now?

October 18th, 2009

dramallamaSo the other day one of my buds put up a thread about masters meeting their slaves’ needs.  She talked about being given little tasks that are completely unnecessary because her owner knows that being given these tasks puts her in a “happy active sub place”.  The example she used was baking a cake for no reason except that her man knows she likes doing these silly little chores for him.

There are a couple cliques running around FetLife who seem to think they’re better than everyone else (Where aren’t there cliques that think they’re better than everyone else?).  On the surface, their posts often look harmless.  The haughty undertones and “My relationship’s better than yours.” attitude are often overlooked at first glance.  And they pretend that sentences like “My master never has to do a, b and c to keep me in line.” and “I don’t need training anymore.” can’t possibly be misconstrued as “I’m so much better than you, with my uber perfect relationship.”

They are, in a word, cunts.  And not in the cutesy way (that’s tongue-in-cheek, by the way) Kaya and I are cunts.  In the “I’m old and perfect.” way.

I wonder if their “masters” are their cats.  Now that was just rude.

They called me over-sensitive.  And in some ways, I am.  But not in the way that they seem to think.  For some reason, they seemed to think I was crying in my coffee.  I was actually kind of amused.

But what burned my ass was the “Your master sucks.” undertones.  They basically told my friend she and her owner suck for needing reminders without telling her as much.

Then they did, in a round about way, tell me that my owner sucks.  That I wouldn’t be over-sensitive if I had an owner like theirs.

Whatever.  That’s not the point. 

The point of my post, really, is to ask you guys if your dominants ever give you asinine orders just for the sake of keeping you in that “happy active sub place”? Stupid little shit like baking a cake or making lunch for him and his coworkers or cleaning a room you’ve already cleaned.

Master does.  I’m not sure if He does it because He’s trying to meet my needs or because it amuses Him.

I like to think it’s partly because He knows that, even though I bitch and moan about it, I like being told to do things.  Matter of fact, I’ve always been one of those people who sometimes won’t actually do anything they’re supposed to do without someone standing over their shoulder.  But, knowing Him, it’s really just because He likes to do it.

That’s not to say Master’s not indulgent of my silly wants and needs.  He is.  He is absolutely of the mind that a happy slave performs better than a miserable one.  And, often, in order to keep someone happy, you have to be indulgent of some of their wants and needs.  But He will never go to the extreme of always indulging me even when it conflicts with His wants and needs.  He believes those should always come first except in the case of an emergency (accident, health problem, etc.).

And personally, I feel this is the way it should be.  He is the master.  He owns me.  Wholly and completely.  His wants and needs should come first.  And if He can without putting Himself out, He should indulge some of my wants and needs.  If only so I don’t spiral down into the place that I’ve spent so much of my life in.  The place where I don’t feel I’m of any use or value to anyone and that everyone would be better off without me.

And He does a good job.  It takes a lot to put me in that place now.  And usually, it takes me severely disappointing or hurting Him.  To be honest, I don’t think He could ever punish me as severely as I punish myself in these situations.

So how’s it work for you? Does your dominant give you silly, useless orders? Do you know his/her motivation for doing it? What say you?

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  1. Joji
    October 21st, 2009 at 13:04 | #1

    I wanted to post to this yesterday but I wasnt sure of how to phrase my thoughts or feelings on it. I understand the logic to a point but what I wanted to say which I couldnt find words for yesterday was that I’m sort of somewhere in the middle. New as I am to this I’ve learned to expect nothing from him regards to his mastering. Yes, I do enjoy and like the reminders of my place in his life/our relationship but to have those continuously reinforced – in me- would create a state where I would come to expect these things habitually. As a slave, I don’t feel I should have any expectations of Him as life will often interfere and for the girl whose become accustomed these reinforcements what happens then?

    I went through a phase sometime ago, where I actually spoke to him about how occassionally I fall into a state of feeling more like a wife/girlfriend to him than a slave. I was looking for those stronger reinforcements but I feel a Master shouldnt be held solely responsible for maintaining his slaves headspace. It falls to the slave as well.

    I am his slave regardless of whatever sedentry aspects our life take on. That doesnt mean I dont crave to have those moments where I’m reminded of my place, it means only I enjoy them much more when I get them.

    I’ve found that more and more in our dynamic I need them less and less I crave them but I come to a point in my submission where I do the things for him I would generally balk at, because I want to, because making him happy makes me happy.

    I apologize in advance if this came up as a one upmanship post. I’m not, infact in the grand scheme of things, I think I fall far behind you and Kaya in aspects of rawrness and admire and respect both of you for the way you do things and the dynamic you and your men have created.

  2. October 21st, 2009 at 13:44 | #2

    @Joji Lol… Joji, I’m not sure I could ever take anything you say as “one upmanship”.

    I see what you’re saying. And my bud and I don’t really *expect* the reminders, so much as realize we’re given them.

    As for whether or not a slave should have expectations of their owner, I don’t personally see expectations as a bad thing. Requirements, maybe. But, for example, I expect to be controlled. I know that it’s His right not to control me if He chooses not to. But I expect it, nonetheless.

    That’s not to say that there are repercussions for Him not following through (Though I will admit that when He can’t find the time to rule me with an iron fist, I do get a bit unruly. One of those “Give an inch. Take a mile.” kinda things). Just that I look for it.
    .-= rayne´s last blog ..Do as I say, not as I do. =-.

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