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Collars: Status Symbol vs. Sign of Ownership

October 3rd, 2009 2 comments

veckylee$612205159Okay… This might be rambly.  I’m typing this with my wrists locked together and I’m having trouble thinking clearly.  I keep almost curling up inside myself in this weird slavey head space so my normal ADD issues are out of control.  And besides that, I don’t know where I’m going with this and I might be totally off base so it might be more questions than answers.  Lol.

I was bumbling around on FetLife looking for something interesting to talk about and I came across this scenario:

You put a training collar on someone and remove it for purposes of punishment, but not to uncollar and stop training. Then in the time before the collar was to be given back someone decided to take your trainee and collar them under consideration.

And these questions:

Does the person giving the training have the right to remove the “under consideration” collar?
Did the person who collared the slave when their training collar was removed have the right to collar the slave in the first place?

My knee-jerk response was:

You put a training collar on someone and removed it. Really, everything after that is irrelevant. You removed your claim to her. She moved on. From where I sit, removing a collar for punishment is emotional blackmail and utter bullshit. I’d have moved on, too.

And then I started thinking about it.  And now I’m all over the place with it.

I was uncollared once in the beginning.  I was pissed.  It made absolutely no sense to me.  It was like taking away my wedding ring and telling me I couldn’t be married until I proved myself a good wife.  But I didn’t have to earn my collar.  I only had to prove that I knew what I was getting into.  And that really only required discussing, with Master, the things I’d read and the opinions I’d formed and the type of relationship I saw us involved in.  Read more…

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