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Cin Started It! – Mental Health

September 23rd, 2009 3 comments

sexycrazyJust a forewarning, I’m done tiptoeing around this topic.  I’m letting it all hang out.  And I’m not even gonna apologize if I offend anyone! I know… I’m a rebel!

My first thought when I read Cin’s post on mental health was “Wait… You’re cheating on me?”And then she explained that I’m a moron for thinking for a second that she’d cheat on me and I felt about an inch tall.

Then I started thinking about all the things wrong with the way mental health issues are perceived.  Especially in the online “BDSM community”.

First, it’s not just us kinksters blaming all our woes on our mental issues.  M’s vanilla daughter (who’s over 18 so I can hate on her all I want) nonstop blames all the fucked up shit she does (and she does some pretty fucked up shit) on her mental illnesses (that we’re not 100% sure she has cause we’ve spoken to her therapists who aren’t 100% sure she’s not faking it for attention).  And she’s not, by any means, the only one.

But we, as a country and as a society, foster this behavior.  We find out someone’s been wronged in some way and we immediately start in with the “Oh my god.  I’m so sorry! Is there anything I can do for you?”s and the “She can’t help it.  X, Y and Z happened to her!”s and the “You should be nice to him.  He had to deal with blahzayblah growing up.”s.  It’s become cool and hip to have a mental illness or be a victim.  And it certainly wins a person more attention and, occasionally, lots of dough.

Let’s back up a bit, shall we?

When I talk about my mental illnesses, I’m often making fun of them.  Usually, I call my vast array of diagnoses “diagnonsense”.  You’ll occasionally hear me call therapy “they-rape-me” and a therapist “the rapist”.  I don’t hold the mental health profession in the highest regard because I’m walking, talking proof that they seriously don’t know what the fuck they’re doing.  Read more…

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Pleasurists #47

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