What would you tell someone new who is starting a journey similar to your own?

Sometimes I try to avoid newbies. I know… I know. But, occasionally, it gets tiring saying “Suck it up, Buttercup.” over and over. And even more so when you can see, from the beginning, that they’re going to get too frustrated with the whole thing and give up. It’s like, why waste my time, you know?

Once in a while, though, I see something in them that resonates with me. That reminds me of me in the beginning. And I think, just maybe, this one is worth helping.

I know. I’m a horrible person.

What would I tell them?

None of this is written in stone.

It’s about what makes you and your partner happy. What you and your partner can live with. Not what makes Joe Blow in Connecticut happy.

Know yourself. And if you don’t already, at least make an effort to learn who you are. Read more…