Things change an awful lot. So much that it can sometimes leave me in a tailspin. But the most recent change, for us, was more a case of willful ignorance than actual change.

For a long time, I was not allowed (as in, still have a copy of the rules with this particular one in it) to defer to any other dominants. Period. Even my occasional southern-raised “Yes, Sir.” or “Yes, Ma’am.” would get me in trouble until Master realized it was simply how I was brought up. And now it’s rare that it falls out of my mouth. Got tired of the funny looks you get up here in Yanksville for being polite.

We spent some time in some Gorean channels on IRC and there I had to call *everyone* Master or Mistress. I hated it. Especially with the crowd we were hanging around with. They didn’t deserve the titles. They all projected themselves as something they were something they weren’t and it always became painfully obvious as soon as one of the princess slaves got irritated. I swear, one of those girls would drop her diamond tiara and men would leap from the other side of the football field to catch it before it hit the ground.

When we left the Gor channels, I asked Master what to do with regard to this rule because by that point I was utterly confused. I don’t remember what He said. I just know somehow I came to the understanding that I wasn’t supposed to defer to anyone anymore and definitely only supposed to submit to Him without orders. Read more…