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BDSM and Feminism

February 24th, 2009 3 comments

Kaya posted a blog about a raging feminazi she found on the web. The woman truly believes that women involved in BDSM are destroying the very fiber of feminism.

She says that feminism isn’t about equality at all. It’s about freeing women from oppression. Whether they like it or not. And that no woman should be allowed to indulge in any sort of behavior in which she is dominated.

There’s more to her message but I haven’t had the will to read. I’ll muddle through it eventually. But the thought of someone being that closed-minded simultaneously makes me sad and angry. As well as baffles me beyond belief. How can anyone in one breath say that women shouldn’t be oppressed and then oppress them by refusing them what they desire? *sigh*

Anyway, I’ve begun my own bit of research. I’m searching the web for feminist organizations and asking them for their stance. The following is the email I’m sending:

Hi there. Recently there have been a number of debates around the globe about BDSM ( and feminism. People are saying things like “BDSM knocks the feminist movement back 30 years!” and “Feminism isn’t about a woman having the choice to live how she wants. It’s about freeing her from oppression.”

I’m wondering… Where does your organization stand on a woman’s right to choose how to live? Is feminism really only about freeing women from oppression? Or is it about giving us a choice? And do you feel those of us who prefer to live in a patriarchal household (And some of us didn’t live in a patriarchal household growing up, so it’s not always learned behavior.) are… wrong somehow?

Thank you for your time 🙂

Stay tuned for their responses.

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