Archive for December 9th, 2006


December 9th, 2006 Comments off

Recently the person that runs a local [[BDSM]] mailing list I’m on requested that people contribute more to the list. I sent back a message saying that I don’t normally jump in unless there’s really something to say, due to the fact that my opinions are somewhat extreme. I then went on to give some examples.

One example was the fact that I feel that “submissive” and “slave” have distinctly different definitions, but I’m not going to talk about that here.

One of my other points is that I don’t necessarily believe in the “[[Safe, Sane and Consensual]]” phrase that so many in BDSM follow. Why? Well, “Consensual” is a no brainer, however I believe that a submissive and a slave give their consent at different times. What I mean is, I believe a submissive is continually giving their consent, while a slave is giving their ultimate consent when begging for a collar, and thereafter, unless released, there is implied consent throughout the relationship. Of course, I would expect that a real Master or Mistress would take a significant period of time making sure the slave understood that before collaring them.

However, “Safe” and “Sane” are not easily defined, and are totally subjective. Each person will interpret these words differently. As I said in my post to the local list I mentioned, one person new to BDSM may feel that using a bull whip on another human being is crazy, while another may feel that nailing tender body parts to a board is both sane AND sane! Who is right? Read more…

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More Transgressions

December 9th, 2006 Comments off

Perhaps I should start making separate posts each day when I’m going to do this. Or maybe add another page for a transgressions log? What do you guys think?


Yesterday I was rather snippy. Master warned me and I tried
to get it under control but I was so disappointed. I thought my boss had cut my
hours and we really can’t afford for him to do that right now. Not to mention,
I couldn’t think of anything I had done to deserve having my hours cut. And on
top of all this I had a massive migraine and was extremely tired. None of these
are excuses.

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