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Bottom, Sub, or Slave?

March 13th, 2006

So this brings up the bottom vs. sub vs. slave debate. People often use these words synonymously when they are largely different. Let"s start with the Websters definitions of submissive and slave:

submissive: inclined or willing to submit to orders or wishes of others or showing such inclination

slave:
a person who is held in bondage to another; one who is wholly subject
to the will of another; one who is held as a chattel; one who has no
freedom of action, but whose person and services are wholly under the
control of another

A sub has the option to put limits on
their submission. Occasionally, they are only submissive some of the
time, generally have a safeword to stop whatever is going on in the
event that they can"t handle it, and rarely ever desire to be under the
command of someone 24/7. They set limits and are firm in them. And most
are quick to remind their Dom/me that they aren"t a slave if they feel
the need arises.

A slave, on the other hand, submits
completely to the will of her owner. she is property. The only rights a
slave has are those her owner allows, usually agreed upon before a
collar is decided on, and for the most part she has no limits except
those discussed before and. More often than not, a slave does not have
a safeword, though personally, rayne feels any D/s relationship should
at least start out with one.

As far as a bottom goes, a
bottom is basically a person who likes to be dominated sexually or in a
scene, as far as rayne can tell. Some use this term to specifically
describe the position someone holds in a scene as opposed to the person
themselves. They"re not always submissive by nature and quite often put
on street clothes, walk out of the dungeon, get in their car and lead
perfectly normal lives until the next scene.

A Gorean
slave is not much different than a BDSM slave except that they are
almost always required to speak in third person and are expected to
serve all free persons regardless of gender or opinion of the person.
They"re not always expected to serve the person sexually, as even in
the books it is required to ask the Master permission before using his
slave, but are expected to be as pleasing and obedient as possible. A
Gorean slave is expected to obey without hesitation or question, no
matter the circumstances.

rayne thinks this concludes her
description and comparison of Gorean based and BDSM based
relationships. Should anyone have questions, please feel free to ask
her.

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