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Submissive v. Slave and 24/7 M/s

November 23rd, 2003 1 comment

It’s getting to the point that I should probably stop reading other people’s opinions and essays. I mostly sit and gape at the screen and wonder where the hell they got their information or who the hell trained them. I’ll be the first to admit that I’m not 100% flawless in my knowledge on the subject of BDSM. I’m sort of learning as Master and I go (this is my first M/s relationship, remember?). But man. Some of these people amaze me.

Let’s start with the idea that there is no such thing as a 24/7 M/s relationship. Well, if that’s the case, I don’t want to cook dinner anymore. That’ll be my “time out”. I’ll still do the dishes and be the slave when we’re sleeping, but I think I’ll opt out of dinner.

Okay, Master?

HA!

A 24/7 Master/slave relationship doesn’t constitute a 24/7 scene. As absolutely breathtaking as it would be to sit on cloud nine all day everyday, it’s just not possible. Even if Master was independently wealthy and we didn’t have any kids, one of us would eventually have to break scene at some point for one reason or another. That’s just the way the cookie crumbles. But in day to day life, we never have to break roles. He always has control and I always do his bidding.

The last essay I read on the impossibility of a 24/7 M/s relationship got some of it right. To have a 24/7 M/s relationship all players must have the mindset and ability to be committed to their role 24 hours a day 7 days a week. When they’re together, when they’re apart, when they’re sleeping, when they’re awake, in the middle of a crisis, in the middle of a celebration. The parties involved are always in their roles.  Read more…

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