Archive for November, 2003

Submissive v. Slave and 24/7 M/s

November 23rd, 2003 1 comment

It’s getting to the point that I should probably stop reading other people’s opinions and essays. I mostly sit and gape at the screen and wonder where the hell they got their information or who the hell trained them. I’ll be the first to admit that I’m not 100% flawless in my knowledge on the subject of BDSM. I’m sort of learning as Master and I go (this is my first M/s relationship, remember?). But man. Some of these people amaze me.

Let’s start with the idea that there is no such thing as a 24/7 M/s relationship. Well, if that’s the case, I don’t want to cook dinner anymore. That’ll be my “time out”. I’ll still do the dishes and be the slave when we’re sleeping, but I think I’ll opt out of dinner.

Okay, Master?


A 24/7 Master/slave relationship doesn’t constitute a 24/7 scene. As absolutely breathtaking as it would be to sit on cloud nine all day everyday, it’s just not possible. Even if Master was independently wealthy and we didn’t have any kids, one of us would eventually have to break scene at some point for one reason or another. That’s just the way the cookie crumbles. But in day to day life, we never have to break roles. He always has control and I always do his bidding.

The last essay I read on the impossibility of a 24/7 M/s relationship got some of it right. To have a 24/7 M/s relationship all players must have the mindset and ability to be committed to their role 24 hours a day 7 days a week. When they’re together, when they’re apart, when they’re sleeping, when they’re awake, in the middle of a crisis, in the middle of a celebration. The parties involved are always in their roles.  Read more…

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Something Nilla

November 20th, 2003 Comments off

Here we go. A nilla topic. I know, I know…but it had to be done. So here it is…Thanksgiving:

Why didn’t anyone tell me that inviting the folks for Thanksgiving was a bad idea? Why didn’t someone say “Geez, Rayne! You trying to kill yourself with anxiety? Smarten up and uninvite them quick before it’s too late!”? Some friends you are!!! ::giggle::

I’m bouncing off the walls feeling like I’m obligated to have some sort of schedule to entertain them when they’re here and we have absolutely nothing for them to do. Unless I can somehow monitor the files my dad is able to pull up and let him on my computer. And even then, there’s still two more people to entertain. And on top of it, my father already seems grouchy and he’s not even here yet. Not to mention he hasn’t met Master.

Now, I know I’m the slave and all, but if my father makes Master feel uncomfortable in his own home, I think I will freak. My dad is notorious for being a bastard to my partners before he even knows them. I’ve always hated it.

I thought the holidays were supposed to be peaceful… SO WHY ARE THEY ALWAYS SO STRESSFUL????

If you’re wondering about the length between posts, I’m going through an “I don’t want to be near this damned computer” phase. You know the type. Where just looking at the thing makes you annoyed, let alone sitting at it.
Hopefully it’ll go away soon. We’ll see.

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