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Collars/contracts players only?

October 13th, 2003

We all know that I’m all for “to each their own” and I don’t judge anyone. Sure I bitch about people’s actions and I grumble when people do things I think are wrong. Doesn’t everyone? But I am in no position to judge anyone, so I don’t. Not only is this philosophy (that collars and contracts are for “players”) totally against everything I’ve read and been taught, but it’s insulting.

Not only do I wear a collar (two actually) but Master and I also have a contract. Which actually needs to be revised because it still says I have a safeword. And on top of that, we’re married. Now perhaps an actual collar isn’t necessary. And maybe, for you, a contract is needless gibberish. There are those that would argue that the strongest collar is around the heart (I agree) and that contracts are in the mindset of Dom/me and sub/slave. That’s fine. But to go so far as to say they’re for “players” only? I think that is way off base.


Granted a collar is only a symbol, but it is a symbol that says “I’m owned.” It shows that the sub/slave has made a commitment to the Dom/me who has placed it there. my collars don’t have dog tags or Master’s initials or anything. As a matter of fact, the “collar” I wear in public is nothing more than a necklace with a hand shaped pendant on it. But it is much much more to Master and I.

And as far as a contract, the way I see a contract is as a form of reassurance for both Dom/me and sub/slave that certain things will be expected and followed. Some subs/slaves aren’t so quick to hand away their freedom for the rest of their lives in a life contract. And for some that caution is a good thing. I, however, have signed a contract that says I will belong to Master for the rest of my life.

Contracts can be a million and one things. They can be laid out to signify a million and one things. They can say as much as all of the rules the sub/slave is to abide by or as little as “Dom/me owns sub/slave”. They are used as an agreement for how long a sub/slave will remain in service to a Dom/me, the things the sub/slave will or will not endure for said Dom/me, any promises made, terms on which release is allowed with or without Dom/me’s permission, etc.

To some this is unnecessary. And that’s fine. Again, to each there own. But to some this is an important part of the relationship. I am a 24/7 real life slave and wife to Master Melen. And I have both collar and contract. Am I a “player”?

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